What We Give Our Heart To - from “Speaking of Religion”
Thursday, March 8th, 2007March 7, 2007
I was moved by a recent interview I read with Katherine Jefferts Schori, who in November of 2006, became the first woman to become the Presiding Bishop of the Episcopal Church of America. Jefferts Schori is a pilot and a former oceanographer. The interview was on the topic of what it might mean for one to have faith.
“I don’t see faith as adhering to a list of propositions,” she says, “I understand faith more in the sense of faithfulness in relationship; I understand it in the root sense of both the Latin and the English word, that it is what you give your heart to.”
Often we equate faith with what we know to be true, but Jefferts Schori is reminding us that, at its root, faith is mysterious. It is the act of the heart being given, of the heart going out to another; and the giver does not necessarily know what will happen from that point on. That is why I think her equating faith with faithfulness in relationship is a model that illustrates this well. What does it mean to be faithful to another? It means, in the words of Buddhist teacher Pema Chodron, “learning to stay.” Learning to stay is learning to be present, the best we can moment to moment, to what is happening in our lives and relationships. Learning to stay perhaps could be defined as how Jefferts Schori defines faith later in the interview: “It requires vulnerability to say I will show up with my whole being and I will engage.”
The religious question we most often get hung up on is whether or not someone believes in God. For some reason, this has become an important question in our society. Rabbi Ira Stone has taught, “Whether or not you believe in God is not a Jewish question. A Jewish question is how true are you to your experience of God in the world.” Another way of putting this could be: how true are we to the sense of wonder we experience in our lives? Or how true are we to our ethical obligations to those around us? In this respect, belief in God is only as important as what we do with it, or where it inspires us to place our heart. Maybe faith is whatever moves us towards another.
The new age culture has spawned a whole new vocabulary about individual spiritual seeking and fulfillment. On balance, I think this is a useful vocabulary, because we know that each of us has our own path to walk. But it can also be a vocabulary that leaves us feeling isolated and alienated. Jefferts Schori reminds us that, “Judeo-Christian tradition has always said that wholeness, holiness, [and] salvation come in the midst of community - and the aberration is to say that I myself can understand, can just make my own decisions and go my own way.”
Judaism teaches that there is no such thing as individual redemption, that we are all inextricably tied to one another. If we’re going to make it, then we’re all going to make it. This is an ecological teaching as well, one that we’ve been painfully slow to realize. As a former biologist who studied squids and octopuses, Jefferts Schori is probably in a good position to be a religious leader in that she can see how ecologically and spiritually, we’re all in the same boat. Interfaith work in this respect isn’t a luxury, but a necessity; and the faith of not-knowing - that none of us knows for sure what the answers are - helps us to listen to one another’s religious traditions with an open mind.